Who’s Fault Is It Now?

A lady was crossing the street outside of a pedestrian crossing. She saw a car coming through the roundabout, speeding up as if the male driver had to keep up with the speed limit for some reason. He saw her. She saw him. They both continued as if the other did not exist…

She continued crossing the road, at the same pace, as if the car wasn’t coming. He should slow down after all, the ignorant person he was! He was looking straight at her. “How ignorant people are”, she was thinking to herself.

He stayed on the same speed, almost defiantly speeding up to prove a point. How could she be so ignorant to walk out on the road when she saw his car arriving at a distance? Some people have no idea, he was thinking.

She made no sign of walking back to safety, nor speed up a fraction to ensure she’d get past the impact zone. He made no effort to slow down, almost as if he wanted to hit her out of principle.

She was in the other lane, by the time the car flew past her. It missed her by much less than 2 meters and there was no harm done. Lucky she didn’t trip, because if she had tripped, she’d be pushing up Daisies by now.

So who is the culprit?

In my opinion, they both deserve to be put back in their parent’s care and put over their knee for a big spanking on their bottoms, like the childish prats they both are. Why do people, especially adults, act this way? Why are there so many people in today’s society that are so ready to blame others and take no accountability for their own actions and mistakes?

If the lady had been hit, who’s fault would it have been? Most people would blame the car because, after all, it is the bigger of the 2 (though she was quite a sizable lady), and can make the most damage. Others, such as the driver of the car, would blame the lady because she blatantly walked out in front of the car’s path even though she knew it was coming.

Blame, blame, blame…

They are both wrong and maybe a session in jail would teach them a lesson. Possibly they could make a donation to a hospital that had to repair other people after their brushes with ignorance on the road? 😉

Who’s Fault Is It Now?

Successful people take full accountability for their actions and get results for that very reason. They don’t blame others and they accept their failures. The moment a person blames someone else, with pitiful excuses, for their own lack of follow though and actions, they have laid the foundations for further failure in their life and for the people around them.

Jumping to conclusions, based on preconceived ideas and uneducated opinions, can be very dangerous and seriously ignorant. Let me share a story with you that gets that point across very strongly. I once heard this story told by Stephen Covey, who has inspired many people including myself with this story.

The Ignorant Father And His Noisy Children

A man was sitting in a train when a father with 2 children arrived in the cabin. The father sat down next to the man. His children proceeded to play up big time! They ran around the cabin, totally out of control, making noise, disturbing people, even grabbing a newspaper from one of the travelers.

Everyone in the train cabin seemed clearly annoyed with the 2 naughty children and seemingly even more annoyed with the fathers complete ignorance to the 2 very loud and obnoxious children. He seemed to not even notice his children, almost in a trance. How dare they be so intruding in everyone’s presence? After a little while the man sitting next to the father, patiently said:

“Excuse me. Would you please be so kind as to control your children? They are clearly annoying everyone in the train and are making a total nuisance out of themselves.”

The father blinked his eyes as if he woke up from another reality and said: “Oh, I’m so sorry. I suppose I should do something. We have just left the hospital where my wife, their mother, has just died this morning. I suppose I don’t really know how to cope with this, and nor do they.”

Imagine how the man felt after receiving this answer. Suddenly, selfishness has turned to selflessness and he was filled with compassion for the poor father and his 2 motherless children.

How would you feel in the same situation?

How many times do we jump to selfish conclusions in life, blaming others for things that are so petty we should be ashamed of it? What does it take to wake a person up from their comfort zone of blame and excuses and start taking full responsibility for their own actions and be more tolerant and open minded of others situations without jumping to the obvious conclusion (which often is wrong)?

The man in the story, who approached the father was Stephen Covey himself. I have told the story from memory and it reminds me of so many life examples that I have seen and experienced. We can take strength from experiences like this and grow – or ignore them and shrink.

The story of “crossing the road” is something I see on a “too often” basis. I hope I never see the consequences of the 2 stubborn people colliding in the street and hope that today’s story will help someone grow – even if it is just a tiny bit.

Be successful: Take 100% responsibility for your actions now and let’s leave the excuses to the losers and blamers, starting today.

Here’s to your success! 🙂

Sean Rasmussen
Success Communicator
Aussie Internet Marketer © 2004 – 2011

About Sean Rasmussen

Sean Rasmussen is a passionate blogger and has been a full time internet marketer since 2005. When he's not with his family, or dog Buddy, Sean is usually blogging or doing something related to the internet.

Comments

  1. Gareth Selby says:

    This article was a fantastic eye-opener to me and that we should take 100% accountability for our successes and failure in life.

    A simple lesson to learn, how I only started to apply this in my life very recently

  2. Hi Sean,

    I’m really touched by your post.

    Trying to apportion blame is a problem in so many areas of modern life and you have written this in an extremely thought provoking and clear way.

    The other issues here are, perhaps, intolerance and an over-inflated sense of self-importance.

    We are all guilty of these things at times.

    Thank you. 🙂

    • I love that Lizzy, ‘an over-inflated sense of self importance’. You see this so much around you, especially when living in a small town- they are really a big fish in a very small pond.

  3. G’day Sean,
    Thanks for reminding me of the Stephen Covey story – it really grabs one’s heartstrings. As far as the traffic incident is concerned, I love the idea of the spanking ! Spare the rod and spoil the child, I say.
    Thanks for a most thought provoking article. Dugg, Stumbled, Hellotxt-ed and Ping-ed
    Cheers, mate
    Harry

  4. Thanks Sean, one finds so many people who do nothing but blame. I am reminded of that old but great little book of Dale Carnegie “How to Win Friends and Influence People” – some great lessons in there. Cheers. Carmel

  5. We shape our destiny by the decisions that we make every moment of every day.

  6. Great post, Quite frankly I think at certain times, we all have to step back and take a deep breath because we all at one stage or another have made the same mistake in one way shape or form.
    Lets all together slow down 2 paces, take a deep breath then move forward. we will all be better off.

  7. It’s time people take ownership of their decisions!
    The other day (yesterday) I was coming over the crest of a hill at about 40 kph when there was this lady pushing a pram on the otherside of the hill, turn around and run back to the side she started crossing from.
    She flipped me the bird, my wife just asked the question, “why would someone cross the street there?”
    And I was just glad I didn’t hit her and the pram, As I traveling well below the speed limit, made me wonder what would of happened if I wasn’t.

  8. Hello Sean,

    Good Story. Love the hidden messages behind the train story. What gets my back up…is the people who are driving on the road with those thoughts…”Its Not My Fault” – well maybe they should spend a day at the morgue, trying to put a body back together so that there loved ones could view them one last time.
    What about spending a day with the Ambulance drivers/police officers/fire men who have to scrap off bodies from the road?
    What would they say then?
    When ever we drive into town from where we are staying for the time being, I am over taken by so many cars. Its a 100 zone, and I am doing a 100. The cars that over take me are doing at least 120. Many of them have babies in the back (with their wife in the front). What will it take to get through these people? Speed kills. But I bet you 10 bucks they will still be crying “Whos Fault is it now? Because it wasnt mine”!!!
    Maybe they are walking through life half dead?
    Cheers
    Lisa

  9. Thanks Sean for sharing this story, I totally agree with you, everyone should accept responsibility for their own actions! Whatever happens in your life it is you and only you who can be responsible!
    Have a fantastic day
    Willem.

  10. Wow, this is very thought provoking. We can all sometimes be quick to judge and blame someone else for things that happen. “It’s not my fault” is an all too common outcry, and as this story so clearly explains, each and every one of us has a different perspective on any given situation.

    From when we are born (and before), our world begins to take shape from all that we hear, see and experience.

    Taking responsibility can, in certain situations more than others, take a lot of courage. However it is incredibly empowering.

  11. Love this story Sean and the message. We are really starting to live in a society of blamers. Your actions are exactly what determines your success and if you only do things half baked you are not going to get the results. Everybody has a story and its not up to us to judge them by the cover.

  12. I think most of us have been guilty of being self righteous at some point in time, and have taken actions that we are not that proud of, I know I have.

    Its quite ironic that many find it easier to blame others for their actions, though I have found that looking at your self in the mirror and accepting responsibility makes it easier to learn & improve.

    There are many influences in life that teach the importance of being right, rather than the importance of learning from our actions, and maybe that’s what drives a lot poor behavior in a pursuit to prove ourselves right.

    Your point of learning from your mistakes and taking account of our own actions is well taken.

    Cheers,
    Cade

  13. Great post Sean.
    I could just picture the lady and male driver in their defiant states. Just what were they trying to prove?
    We’ve all said and done stupid things and cast blame – but having the maturity to know that we are being totally stupid and irrational, putting an immediate stop to it and learning from it will hopefully limit future events.
    Getting into arguments and stand-offs creates such bad energy. Just refuse to go there and get involved – it’s really never worth it.

  14. Folks, right here is the only magic bullet you need. Personal responsibility. Without it, you’ll always be looking for someone else to blame-maybe your parents or the government or the poor or the rich, etc. With it, you’ll realize that the power lies in you, always has and always will.
    great topic
    Chris

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