A lady was crossing the street outside of a pedestrian crossing. She saw a car coming through the roundabout, speeding up as if the male driver had to keep up with the speed limit for some reason. He saw her. She saw him. They both continued as if the other did not exist…
She continued crossing the road, at the same pace, as if the car wasn’t coming. He should slow down after all, the ignorant person he was! He was looking straight at her. “How ignorant people are”, she was thinking to herself.
He stayed on the same speed, almost defiantly speeding up to prove a point. How could she be so ignorant to walk out on the road when she saw his car arriving at a distance? Some people have no idea, he was thinking.
She made no sign of walking back to safety, nor speed up a fraction to ensure she’d get past the impact zone. He made no effort to slow down, almost as if he wanted to hit her out of principle.
She was in the other lane, by the time the car flew past her. It missed her by much less than 2 meters and there was no harm done. Lucky she didn’t trip, because if she had tripped, she’d be pushing up Daisies by now.
So who is the culprit?
In my opinion, they both deserve to be put back in their parent’s care and put over their knee for a big spanking on their bottoms, like the childish prats they both are. Why do people, especially adults, act this way? Why are there so many people in today’s society that are so ready to blame others and take no accountability for their own actions and mistakes?
If the lady had been hit, who’s fault would it have been? Most people would blame the car because, after all, it is the bigger of the 2 (though she was quite a sizable lady), and can make the most damage. Others, such as the driver of the car, would blame the lady because she blatantly walked out in front of the car’s path even though she knew it was coming.
Blame, blame, blame…
They are both wrong and maybe a session in jail would teach them a lesson. Possibly they could make a donation to a hospital that had to repair other people after their brushes with ignorance on the road? 😉
Who’s Fault Is It Now?
Successful people take full accountability for their actions and get results for that very reason. They don’t blame others and they accept their failures. The moment a person blames someone else, with pitiful excuses, for their own lack of follow though and actions, they have laid the foundations for further failure in their life and for the people around them.
Jumping to conclusions, based on preconceived ideas and uneducated opinions, can be very dangerous and seriously ignorant. Let me share a story with you that gets that point across very strongly. I once heard this story told by Stephen Covey, who has inspired many people including myself with this story.
The Ignorant Father And His Noisy Children
A man was sitting in a train when a father with 2 children arrived in the cabin. The father sat down next to the man. His children proceeded to play up big time! They ran around the cabin, totally out of control, making noise, disturbing people, even grabbing a newspaper from one of the travelers.
Everyone in the train cabin seemed clearly annoyed with the 2 naughty children and seemingly even more annoyed with the fathers complete ignorance to the 2 very loud and obnoxious children. He seemed to not even notice his children, almost in a trance. How dare they be so intruding in everyone’s presence? After a little while the man sitting next to the father, patiently said:
“Excuse me. Would you please be so kind as to control your children? They are clearly annoying everyone in the train and are making a total nuisance out of themselves.”
The father blinked his eyes as if he woke up from another reality and said: “Oh, I’m so sorry. I suppose I should do something. We have just left the hospital where my wife, their mother, has just died this morning. I suppose I don’t really know how to cope with this, and nor do they.”
Imagine how the man felt after receiving this answer. Suddenly, selfishness has turned to selflessness and he was filled with compassion for the poor father and his 2 motherless children.
How would you feel in the same situation?
How many times do we jump to selfish conclusions in life, blaming others for things that are so petty we should be ashamed of it? What does it take to wake a person up from their comfort zone of blame and excuses and start taking full responsibility for their own actions and be more tolerant and open minded of others situations without jumping to the obvious conclusion (which often is wrong)?
The man in the story, who approached the father was Stephen Covey himself. I have told the story from memory and it reminds me of so many life examples that I have seen and experienced. We can take strength from experiences like this and grow – or ignore them and shrink.
The story of “crossing the road” is something I see on a “too often” basis. I hope I never see the consequences of the 2 stubborn people colliding in the street and hope that today’s story will help someone grow – even if it is just a tiny bit.
Be successful: Take 100% responsibility for your actions now and let’s leave the excuses to the losers and blamers, starting today.
Here’s to your success! 🙂
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