In the field of mindset and self development, there is great power in numbers. When you have someone else to team up with for your goals, you’re not only going to have somebody to turn to when your own motivation is flagging, but you will also have someone to keep up with and someone to inspire when they begin to falter.
Team up for motivational success
Choosing a partner to share your goals to success is a bit of a tricky process. You need to pick someone with a similar goal to yourself as this will help the both of you help each other in similar ways. For example, you don’t want to partner up with someone who wants to lose ten pounds if you’re trying to lose fifty. When they reach their goal, they might not want to keep going until you reach yours. On the other hand, if you have a friend that wants to lose 20 pounds and you need to lose 30, this might be a more reasonable match up. The weightloss analogy applies to any other scenario. Your motivation may be towards money, lifestyle, travel, charity, self improvement, etc…
Are you committed?
You also need to find someone who’s committed to helping you – and you need to be committed to helping them. You can’t simply enable each other to slack on your individual goals. It can help if you draw up a sort of contract for your partnership to help you both see what’s expected of the other as you move along in your relationship. Sign it and date it and then both people can keep copies, referencing them when the other person doesn’t do everything they agreed to do.
Holding you responsible
A partner is someone that you should be meeting with several times a week – either in person or on email or phone. The constant communication will hold you responsible on the progress you are making, while also giving yourself an extra boost of energy when you might be having troubles with something you are doing. Regular communication is the key, but only if it’s positive and not just complaining about what you are doing.
Some grumbling is to be expected, but if the other is grumbling, you should be helping them move into a more positive mindset.
Have a most outstanding day
Sean Rasmussen
Success Communicator
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Who better to team up with than your partner – I am so lucky because we are in this together – when one is down or doubting the other picks up, its a great message.
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Very true – and one of my not-so-well-developed sites – yet. I tend to prefer making my own mistakes, but I am very happy that I joined the YOTA forum, as it keeps me on the right track, with information as well as motivation.
At the moment I am not sure who in my proximity I would want to trust with this (my partner is happy for me to do it but still skeptical) – so if there is anybody out there wanting to join my one-person-motivational-group, leave a comment on my blog
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I feel like I am in the same boat as you Renee. Many of my friends who know what I am doing are still very skeptical that anything can come from blogging – in all honesty I am still a little as well, but that’s more due to the fact that my first foray in this world left a very bad taste in my mouth (and a huge hole in my pocket).
I have been going it alone for some time now and its great to learn from mistakes and duplicate on my successes. The YOTA forum has been a big influence on me and I hope others can benefit from it.
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Hi Renee and Cemil,
I too am in the the same boat I have been doing it on my own now for 12 months.
My partner won’t even check out my posts, but this makes me more determined to “show him” just how goo I am.
I am on the verge of getting my daughter become my “partner” she wants to start an online shop so hers hopping.
Congratulations Rita!
Having your daughter on your site (and probably impressed her lots by all your knowledge) is a great thing. You will be turning your goals into winners, I am sure!
That sounds like sound advice Sean. I have in fact tried this approach but it didn;t seem to work. I signed up with SOPS (yes – the other Shaun) and was assigned a partner to teamed up with to mutually support and motivate each other. The contact initially was ok but quickly died off as we each had own own lives getting in the way. Perhaps it was the distance (about 150Km) or maybe it was other factors. it does however bring home the point that the partner has to be carefully chosen or sought out.
Hi Sean,
I’m all for teamwork. I think it makes the journey easier if you have someone you can completely trust to have your best interests at heart.
If you do choose a partner, I think you have a responsibility to honor the commitment. You have to hold up your end of the bargain by working hard on your goals and fulfilling your commitment to the partnership. It has to be a two way street. Both partners must participate equally and be able to support and help each other when things get tough.
I couldn’t agree more Jazz… Both partners have to be equal & want the same goals out of the partnership otherwise it’s a waste of valuable time & energy – and when the commitment is followed through both parties will be a source of great strength! Win-win!!
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I agree with you here, Samantha, but I would also take it one step further. I would also say that with a partnership, you also have to make sure that your enthusiasm levels are around the same level.
If one is hyper enthusiastic and keen, and the other is only mildly excited, the hyper-enthusiasm can be either overwhelming, draining, or off-putting. (A bit like the rah-rah of an Amway gathering! *grin*) I’ve worked with people in the past that have been perpetually ‘happy’, and while I don’t deny them their happiness, it did make for a rather bland relationship after a while. Similar, as Sean can attest, to driving across the Nullabor! You need a few distractions to break things up. But I digress. You don’t want to drown in someone else’s enthusiasm, or drown someone else’s interest with yours.
Enthusiasm of comparatively the same level keen help keep both buoyant, and together you can raise each other to the level of hyper enthusiastic, if you both aren’t already there! *grin*
Just a thought!
Cheers,
Pete
Pete´s last blog ..peteboyr: @bullhunter Thanks, Sean. Just reviewing the webinar, and will get to your blogs after that. Big night ahead, pizza on the way!
Hi Pete,
You make an excellent point. It would be great to have someone who could match you in all these areas. Still, I think it’s a little like trying to find the perfect partner.
It probably isn’t going to happen. But, as long as both people are willing to pull their own weight and honour their commitments; you should be able to develop a strong working relationship.
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Having a buddy definitely helps stay on track towards our goals, particularly if you would let that buddy down by wimping out. They can also be great not only to share the struggles with but also to share the successes in, plus to help motivate me along the way. And they are different from mentors – who have already developed beyond the point at which we are currently learning.
Like Renee, I am definitely enjoying the YOTA forum – great to see those I started out with putting together some very impressive sites. This definitely helps to spur me on when I see something really great that one of them has done. Perhaps the YOTA forum could be described as a circle of buddies, with some great mentors.
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I would so love to have the support of my life partner but for now it is not too be.
What would I do without my YOTA family?
Be nowhere near where I am today. They totally rock. An example of people being at similar stages and having similarl goals. It definitely also helps to have mentors to draw support from who are actually doing it rather than just saying they are doing it.
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Well Gee,
Looks like we will just have to continue supporting each other till our partners see we really are going to succeed.
I guess they will be very happy once they see that it works. If you don’t know it I guess it can look a bit strange. And it also takes a lot of attention away from the partners and transfers it to the computer …
As long as they give us the time to do what we need to do I think that is already quite good
This is a fantastic idea. I hadn’t thought of this specifically – I have a great community of YOTA buddies – I can tick that column.
Now, I will advertise for one comedy writer partner. But where to find this person… that’s the key!
Being equal in the sense of goals etc made me think of an article I read today about Kate Winslet splitting from husband for those reasons. Last year when they were working on a film together, they would come home & she want to go through all the nuances and he just wanted to wind down. No synergy – not equal to the other persons goals and most probably caused alot of arguments. I can see after a period of time the relationship breaking down – 2 different personalities that will never quite mesh. It’s a lesson!
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This is a fantastic tip. The Law of Attraction is now working to bring me and my perfect IM partner together. It has started already with me reading this blog post.
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My wife is the most amazing person in the world in some respects but I wonder if she could have achieved this without someone to support her in the way I have done
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Turning Goals Into Winners – teaming up with another person who is after the same goal as yourself makes sense. Actually it works. because my husband David and I are on the same path. We have found that if we work independently then our goals are harder to reach. When we work as a team we reach our destination faster and with better results
I am going to be dragging him out of bed each morning from now on so that he can go for a walk and get his exercise at the same time as myself.
Cheers
Lisa
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G’day Sean,
Well, blow all you other commentors above ! I have the best partners / friends / mates / buddies of all in my IM endeavours. What a Claim to make ! Who are they ? Simple :- Yota, Yang, the Zodiacs, and all the forum members. It’s incredible how much help is available, and I am VERY GRATEFUL. [ Aloud to myself on my morning walk ]
Cheers
Harry
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I agree Harry, that Yota Yang and the Zodiacs are the best
But it would be nice to have a partner who was giving you encouragement and support instead putting everything you are achieving down.
You know, well-chosen partners certainly make life easier.
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I think I will put that into my bag of tricks, we all need a reminder from time to time, to be better prepared and what better way than to have a trust worthy partner. My wife springs to mind (hmm got some work to do there though). I would look at partners that believe in the same thing as i do this would help one another move forward in the right direction.
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In theory, having someone to help you out is of a big benefit, and can take you in directions and areas that you wouldn’t have even dreamed of. My trouble is knowing when to ask for help, and then when I do decide to ask, having someone around who is likely to help, constructively.
Within a year or two of starting High School, my homework got to the level where it was above my parents ability to help when I was stuck, so my independence or need to be self-sufficient started relatively early, and has pretty much grown from there! Of course, the older I get, the harder it is.
There is also the mental roadblock, I guess you would call it, of not wanting to be a slacker and getting people to help unnecessarily. But then I guess that’s just me worry about what others will think of me, and I’m sure that’s an entirely different blog! *grin*
Just a thought!
Cheers,
Pete
Pete´s last blog ..peteboyr: @bullhunter Thanks, Sean. Just reviewing the webinar, and will get to your blogs after that. Big night ahead, pizza on the way!
Hi Sean, It would be great to have a partner to bounce of of, ( did I say that right?)I have done everything on my own all my life, I was a self employed painter, now at 63 I have nothing as I cannot do the work because of a heart condition! So doing things on your own doesn’t get you very far, a partner would surely keep you on track! I also believe in the law of attraction.
Hi Sean
I have been a motivator and mentor to many people in my life. I have never been able to find someone who would fulfill that role for me, that is until I met the highly motivated, enthusiastic, smart, creative, adventuresome, supportive, intelligent, fun loving, sincere, huggy, motivating, friendly, accepting, over the top helpful, hilarious(the list is exhaustive!) YOTA family, team, moderators, Yang, and that includes You Sean and Cherie.
I am totally motivated because I have the best teachers and motivators/mentors in the world.
A big thankyou!
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Having someone to be responsible to is the way to go..
It is to easy to make plans and goals and then when the going gets tough drop out.
Now if that person is in contact 2-3 times per week you can communicate your problem with them…