In the field of mindset and self development, there is great power in numbers. When you have someone else to team up with for your goals, you’re not only going to have somebody to turn to when your own motivation is flagging, but you will also have someone to keep up with and someone to inspire when they begin to falter.
Team up for motivational success
Choosing a partner to share your goals to success is a bit of a tricky process. You need to pick someone with a similar goal to yourself as this will help the both of you help each other in similar ways. For example, you don’t want to partner up with someone who wants to lose ten pounds if you’re trying to lose fifty. When they reach their goal, they might not want to keep going until you reach yours. On the other hand, if you have a friend that wants to lose 20 pounds and you need to lose 30, this might be a more reasonable match up. The weightloss analogy applies to any other scenario. Your motivation may be towards money, lifestyle, travel, charity, self improvement, etc…
Are you committed?
You also need to find someone who’s committed to helping you – and you need to be committed to helping them. You can’t simply enable each other to slack on your individual goals. It can help if you draw up a sort of contract for your partnership to help you both see what’s expected of the other as you move along in your relationship. Sign it and date it and then both people can keep copies, referencing them when the other person doesn’t do everything they agreed to do.
Holding you responsible
A partner is someone that you should be meeting with several times a week – either in person or on email or phone. The constant communication will hold you responsible on the progress you are making, while also giving yourself an extra boost of energy when you might be having troubles with something you are doing. Regular communication is the key, but only if it’s positive and not just complaining about what you are doing.
Some grumbling is to be expected, but if the other is grumbling, you should be helping them move into a more positive mindset.
Have a most outstanding day
Sean Rasmussen
Success Communicator
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Who better to team up with than your partner – I am so lucky because we are in this together – when one is down or doubting the other picks up, its a great message.
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Very true – and one of my not-so-well-developed sites – yet. I tend to prefer making my own mistakes, but I am very happy that I joined the YOTA forum, as it keeps me on the right track, with information as well as motivation.
At the moment I am not sure who in my proximity I would want to trust with this (my partner is happy for me to do it but still skeptical) – so if there is anybody out there wanting to join my one-person-motivational-group, leave a comment on my blog
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I feel like I am in the same boat as you Renee. Many of my friends who know what I am doing are still very skeptical that anything can come from blogging – in all honesty I am still a little as well, but that’s more due to the fact that my first foray in this world left a very bad taste in my mouth (and a huge hole in my pocket).
I have been going it alone for some time now and its great to learn from mistakes and duplicate on my successes. The YOTA forum has been a big influence on me and I hope others can benefit from it.
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That sounds like sound advice Sean. I have in fact tried this approach but it didn;t seem to work. I signed up with SOPS (yes – the other Shaun) and was assigned a partner to teamed up with to mutually support and motivate each other. The contact initially was ok but quickly died off as we each had own own lives getting in the way. Perhaps it was the distance (about 150Km) or maybe it was other factors. it does however bring home the point that the partner has to be carefully chosen or sought out.
Hi Sean,
I’m all for teamwork. I think it makes the journey easier if you have someone you can completely trust to have your best interests at heart.
If you do choose a partner, I think you have a responsibility to honor the commitment. You have to hold up your end of the bargain by working hard on your goals and fulfilling your commitment to the partnership. It has to be a two way street. Both partners must participate equally and be able to support and help each other when things get tough.
I couldn’t agree more Jazz… Both partners have to be equal & want the same goals out of the partnership otherwise it’s a waste of valuable time & energy – and when the commitment is followed through both parties will be a source of great strength! Win-win!!
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Having a buddy definitely helps stay on track towards our goals, particularly if you would let that buddy down by wimping out. They can also be great not only to share the struggles with but also to share the successes in, plus to help motivate me along the way. And they are different from mentors – who have already developed beyond the point at which we are currently learning.
Like Renee, I am definitely enjoying the YOTA forum – great to see those I started out with putting together some very impressive sites. This definitely helps to spur me on when I see something really great that one of them has done. Perhaps the YOTA forum could be described as a circle of buddies, with some great mentors.
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I would so love to have the support of my life partner but for now it is not too be.
What would I do without my YOTA family?
Be nowhere near where I am today. They totally rock. An example of people being at similar stages and having similarl goals. It definitely also helps to have mentors to draw support from who are actually doing it rather than just saying they are doing it.
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This is a fantastic idea. I hadn’t thought of this specifically – I have a great community of YOTA buddies – I can tick that column.
Now, I will advertise for one comedy writer partner. But where to find this person… that’s the key!
Being equal in the sense of goals etc made me think of an article I read today about Kate Winslet splitting from husband for those reasons. Last year when they were working on a film together, they would come home & she want to go through all the nuances and he just wanted to wind down. No synergy – not equal to the other persons goals and most probably caused alot of arguments. I can see after a period of time the relationship breaking down – 2 different personalities that will never quite mesh. It’s a lesson!
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This is a fantastic tip. The Law of Attraction is now working to bring me and my perfect IM partner together. It has started already with me reading this blog post.
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My wife is the most amazing person in the world in some respects but I wonder if she could have achieved this without someone to support her in the way I have done
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Turning Goals Into Winners – teaming up with another person who is after the same goal as yourself makes sense. Actually it works. because my husband David and I are on the same path. We have found that if we work independently then our goals are harder to reach. When we work as a team we reach our destination faster and with better results
I am going to be dragging him out of bed each morning from now on so that he can go for a walk and get his exercise at the same time as myself.
Cheers
Lisa
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