Mindset Mastery 185 – Permanent Indecision

Mindset Mastery eBookThe leaders and succeeders know where they are going. Napoleon Hill told us that last time. But too often indecision prevents us from being the leader in our own lives. And too often indecision is a well-learned and firmly imbedded habit that needs a firm hand to break it.

The Habit Of Youth

Indecision is a habit which usually begins in youth. The habit takes on permanency as the youth goes through grade school, high school, and even through college, without definiteness of purpose. The major weakness of all educational systems is that they neither teach nor encourage the habit of definite decision.

It would be help greatly if no college would enroll any student unless and until the student declared his major purpose in matriculating. It would be of still greater help, if every student who enters grade school had as part of their education instruction in the habit of decision, and was required to pass an exam on this subject before being permitted to advance to the next grade.

Life Choices or Indecision?

The habit of indecision acquired because of the deficiencies of school systems, goes with the student into the occupation he chooses . . . if … in fact, he chooses his occupation. Generally, the young people just out of school take any job they can find. Young people take the first place they find because they have already fallen into the habit of indecision. Ninety-eight out of every hundred wage-earners are in the positions they hold because they lacked the definiteness of decision to plan a definite position, and the knowledge of how to choose an employer.

Definiteness of decision always requires courage, sometimes very great courage. The fifty-six men who signed the U.S. Declaration of Independence staked their lives on the decision to put their signatures on that document. The person who reaches a definite decision to land the particular job, and make life pay the price he asks, does not stake his life on that decision; he stakes his economic freedom. Financial independence, riches, desirable business and professional positions are not within reach of the person who neglects or refuses to expect, plan, and demand these things. The person who desires riches in the same spirit that Samuel Adams desired freedom for the Colonies is sure to accumulate wealth.

In the chapter on Organized Planning you will find complete instructions for marketing every type of personal services. You will also find detailed information on how to choose the employer you prefer, and the particular job you desire. These instructions will be worthless to you unless you definitely decide to organize them into a plan of action.

Be Courageous

It does take courage to commit to a definite purpose and decision, and then action. It is much more “comfortable” for us to leave our options open. The problem is, we leave those options too open until there is no direction left in our lives. As Napoleon Hill told us early on, sometimes what really needs to happen is to burn the bridge so that forward-movement is the only option. It’s the only way to commit to a purpose that is definite and a motion that is progressive.
This brings us to the end of chapter 8 of Napoleon Hill’s Mindset Mastery book. We’ve much more to learn from Napoleon Hill, though, so do be sure to come back next time as we jump into Chapter 9 and more imperative life lessons.

Sean Rasmussen
Success Communicator
Aussie Internet Marketer Β© 2004 – 2010

About Sean Rasmussen

Sean Rasmussen is a passionate blogger and has been a full time internet marketer since 2005. When he's not with his family, or dog Buddy, Sean is usually blogging or doing something related to the internet.

Comments

  1. I couldn’t agree more on this one. Check out how I demonstrated this principle in my blog last year at this link: http://chrisbellesini.com/2009/08/10/2-too-much-opportunity

    If we are given two things to choose from usually we can decide quite quickly but the more choice, the more doubt and time wasted analysing. I decide quickly and go with my heart, 9 out of 10 times this is right and often I have results whilst others are still deciding.

    Since quitting my job 5 years ago the only jobs I have done have been the ones that I am the boss or that I created through negotiation in an area I wanted to learn more about.
    .-= Chris Bellesini´s last blog ..25 – The Wayward Sports Star =-.

    • I tend to go on ‘gut instinct’ rather than make decisions of the heart. The heart will only get you into trouble – so I personally have made a deal with the heart. And there still are times the heart has crossed the line & got involved in stuff it has no right to… dang!!!

      When I go with my gut – “intuition”, it’s right on the money every single time. If only the heart can keep it’s nosy nose out of it, 100% of the time.

      But we all still choose what we choose to believe, hey?!?!

      • Ahh but Samantha, sometimes the heart is right and will bring you much more joy and happiness than you’re gut. Although I went with my gut when I jumped in the car with the guy who eventually introduced me to my now husband, I went with my heart to meet him – good story but not so relevant here.

        FB message me if you want the whole deal πŸ™‚
        .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..My Book Review of The Pact by Jodi Picoult =-.

  2. Phil Browne says:

    This is very true.Ive had to make some very hard decisions some good some not good but once the decision is made go with it and dont look back learn from your mistakes but once a decision has been made stick with it in fact I have to make a very big decision right now that being should I sell both businesses and stop working to pursue the 21st century way of life.Not a hard decision after all.

  3. This is an inspirational post.. the whole crux of movement, any movement, is the getting from one place to another. Working out the ‘where’, is sometimes irrelevant when we are bogged.. my car wheels turn better when I am already moving – so getting to the point of “i want to ….” is momentous. Direction can be fine-tuned when rolling. Thanks for this post.
    .-= Jo Carey-Bradshaw´s last blog ..Empowering Mindset – Mindfulness =-.

    • Movement and momentum are great points to raise, Jo. Often, it’s all about getting moving. I think it doesn’t matter where you move in the beginning – Just get going and you’ll figure it out! πŸ™‚
      .-= Lina Nguyen´s last blog ..Hate to tell you, but… They think you’re a Spammer =-.

      • Agreed. You both raise good points. If I get up and am sluggish and don’t start the chores immediately they don’t get done. Once I start I can’t stop and I think I’m the norm in this and not the unusual πŸ™‚ It takes much more effort to get started than it does to keep going.
        .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..Attracting Good People and Good Books =-.

    • Spot on my friend! You are wise – fine-tuning the direction. If only I could be more concise when I write, I tend to waffle. And not the kind that you can put banana’s & melted nutella on – see!! But do I want my wheels to keep rolling when I have my foot on the accelerator & all my IM buddies (which I assume are all of you guys) are helping me get the car out of the mud. You guys are going to get mud all over you.

      • I’m a country girl, I’m not playing unless I have mud on me πŸ™‚ We met for a reason, I can put banana’s on anything I love them so. Hence my storyline based on BananaBoy πŸ™‚

        If you need more gas just come back here, we’re all so rich we can afford the high price of filling your tank and keeping you running while we coast down a hill for a bit.

        Man, this brings me back. When I ran for student council president my speech advised the student body that I was there car and made analogies to being so all the way through. I gained some fans and friends for life and gained my grade 12 freedom as someone else took the crown.

  4. Great blog Sean. Here’s a simple cure for indecision – just say yes! This doesn’t mean you immediately and blindly go down any ol’ alley. It means that when you say yes! all your receptors are open – and that means you/me/we are available TO ALL POSSIBILITIES. Imagine that! All possibilities. Then there is no need for a decision, because the way forward is clear. Happy days everyone.

    • Hi Stephanie,
      I like your suggestion to be open to all possibilities.
      What I have a bit of trouble understanding is how there then “is no need for a decision” if you are available for all possibilities. I think you still have to take a decision for the goal you want to achieve and decide which of the possibilities on offer is the best to take you there.

      Let me know what you think.
      .-= Renee´s last blog ..Motivational Music =-.

      • Hi Renee

        If you stay open to all possibilities and never make a decision then you will just drift around. You need to make a decision about what it is you want to achieve, set your goal and decide to take action. Then, once you have done this be aware of possibilites that will help you or enhance you on your journey.

    • At this I’ll need to recommend the movie “Yes Man” with Jim Carey. It’s an hilarious movie about a man who has to say yes to every opportunity in his life. You’ll quickly understand the benefits of saying no but also embracing the choice of making the decision.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..I Am Attracting You and Your Vote Via Law Of Attraction =-.

      • I too have seen “Yes Man” and I agree with the philosophy. When you ignore the fact that opportunities are given to us every single day and I believe every single second of the day, and you want better things in your life, you better start saying “YES” every single second. I see life very differently since I have taken to the philosophy “Opportunity arrive every single second”
        .-= Samantha Banfield´s last blog ..Sean Rasmussen and his crazy talk! =-.

        • It sounds like you lead a very adventurous life and I look forward to learning of each opportunity you say yes to. I am trying to filter my experiences, realizing I’ll be missing out on a lot but knowing I’m being true to myself. Although I hesitated when I wrote that as adventure can lead you to learning more about yourself than staying on the straight and narrow can.

          Hmm… you sure gave me something to think about. Thank you πŸ™‚
          .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..Attracting Good People and Good Books =-.

  5. I like this post – but I really shouldn’t comment because I get too hot under the collar about schools and their systems!!!….they are not set up correctly for our youth today. They do not teach the skills that are needed for when they leave school. Helping them to stick to their path and choosen career? Not likely…unless you are very lucky and get a very rare form of a career guidance officer. They give the boys a novel to read for a project, with the line “Don’t read the whole book – you don’t need to know what’s in it, only the bits you need to answer the following questions”. If a teenager can’t not be encourged to read a whole novel because its over 100 pages, then how are they ever going to learn to stick it out for a great career. I have my fingers crossed that my boys have seen our mistakes of never looking for the right career – just leaving school and taking whatever came our way – and go on a journey looking for a career that will carry them through life. The problems with habit of youth is that sometimes it becomes habits of adults. Wish there was Think and Grow Rich books in every highschool as part of their studies – with instructions to read the whole book!!
    Sorry – i told you I should never have commented for this blog!!
    Thanks Sean
    .-= Lisa Wood´s last blog ..Searching For Gratitude Rocks =-.

    • Hi Lisa,
      I agree with you, the schools have not moved with the times, they should encourage the kids to think outside the square and one of the book that should be studied is Think and Grow Rich.
      There would be so many more positive people moving forward, and maybe much better politicians to guide our great country.

    • Hi Lisa

      I have to admit, I am shocked to read this instructions given by the school. That is (in my opinion) a very bad decision.
      But maybe you can get your boys to read “Think and Grow Rich” or something similar (the whole book πŸ˜‰ ) – that should be material for lots of discussions and give them a great advantage in later life.
      Just an idea πŸ™‚
      .-= Renee´s last blog ..Motivational Music =-.

    • You’re more than welcome to rant here as it seems most, if not all, of us agree with you and it’s necessary to find others who agree with how you feel. Release your thoughts and you’ll get action πŸ™‚

      When I submitted my first children’s book to the school boards I was dismayed at their reaction. The person reviewing it for use declined it because I used the word “diet” (in context by the way) and the obese child looked unhappy. I argued that the whole idea of the book was to have kids realize how much happier they would be if they ate healthy foods and were active – making this part of a complete diet (not to lose weight but ignorantly that’s how the adult reader perceived it). The obese child looked sluggish because he is a ten year old who was woken in the middle of the night! Can you tell me what’s wrong with those?

      Meanwhile, these are the same schools displaying posters encouraging kids to “bomb their homework” by having that as a slogan and a picture of papers blowing up.

      The Science of Success: The Secret to Getting What You Want (Paperback)
      by Wallace D. Wattles opened my eyes to the possibilities that what we’ve been taught since grade one is not the only lesson needed to be learned and also may not be the right one to learn. I recommend this book to all of you.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..I Am Attracting You and Your Vote Via Law Of Attraction =-.

  6. Great Article.
    Its is a worthwhile process for anyone to decide on what they want in life, not just employment. I myself went through a self assessment process about 12 months ago, and it was an eye opener, as I discover I was somewhat drifting through life without having decided on a definite purpose and ideal lifestyle/income. Although I still have some distance to travel, I feel I’m must closer to achieving it than ever before.
    Cade
    .-= Cade´s last blog ..How to Fast Track Internet Marketing Success using a Mentor =-.

  7. This is a wonderful blog! Making decisions is definitely tough, but one must also think of the opportunities and possibilities. It takes a whole lot of courage, and I certainly agree with this post. Indecision is a habit that we really need to break.

  8. Hi Sean,
    Most of the time it is important to make a quick and definite decision to be able to get things done and to be able to “move on” with life. Sometimes though it can be important to take time to decide on something important. Like when purchasing a new car for instance. If it’s the first time it’s wise to take your time and consider which one is right for you. The purchase will be better appreciated as well in the long run. Unless of course it’s an emergency and you need one quick to go somewhere but then you are not likely to be buying a new one.

  9. If universities refused to accept students unless they declared their reason for enrolling, they’ll either 1. go out of business; or 2. receive answers from the typical 17-18 year old like “because my parents made me”, “I have no idea what else to do with my life”, “I don’t want to work”!

    I think a major cause of indecision is fear. Fear of making the wrong decision, uncertainty, taking action. It can be paralyzing. If someone is used to “falling into things” without making decisions, and that’s how major life changes have happened for them, then they’re likely to keep going that way. Yes, it becomes a habit.

    That’s why I agree that it takes courage to make decisions. And a knowing that whatever happens, everything will work out. Because you’ll make it work out and because you know that everything happens for a reason.

    Many entrepreneurs believe that it’s better to move in the wrong decision, than not to move at all.
    .-= Lina Nguyen´s last blog ..Taking the leap to work for yourself =-.

    • I totally agree with you here Lina.
      Some do people struggle to be bold and make decision to go after their dreams, because of fear. It takes a lot of courage to stand up and say I want my life to be ………
      Maybe the only way to help your own or others is to spread the message of teaching people like Nepolean Hill and Wallace D Wattles.
      .-= Cade Arnel´s last blog ..4 Tips to Improve your Trade Picks =-.

    • I believe that only students who know what they want to do should rush into a higher education, if they are unsure they should pay for the schooling themselves so they realize the value of the decision they are making.

      Education is invaluable but it can also be wasted on those who don’t appreciate it.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..I Am Attracting You and Your Vote Via Law Of Attraction =-.

  10. Of what you written here the part of habit hits right at me, since being involved with the internet it has been very evident to me that teaching our young the right habits is most certainly the right way to go. i respect what i have read here and will work to form new habits.
    .-= Richard Colum´s last blog ..Tips for First Time Home Buyers =-.

  11. Nancy Moyle says:

    Indecision is another form of procrastination. However, on the ‘defence’ side, some personality types are naturally better at making decisions than others. However, it is probably true that traditional schooling doesn’t really help young people decide what they want to do – and in my experience again and again, the kids I see who excell in their final school year are usually those who have a very clear idea of where they want to head.

    • Hi Nancy

      Do you think it’s personality type? Or do you think it’s something else? Like, fearlessness, definiteness of purpose, the ability to set goals?
      .-= Lina Nguyen´s last blog ..What life is about =-.

      • I loved school, took all the advanced classes and did well and yet had no idea what to do with all of that. Some of my classmates who struggled were the ones forced to go on because the value of education was forced upon them, not appreciated. These same people are still in school, owing thousands in student loans because they are scared of going out into the workforce.

        I’m afraid it’s something more than personality in the people I know. Although in some ways I guess it is. One person in particular doesn’t value herself enough to make a decision on her own and instead looks to her husband or her family to make the decision for her. It’s terrifying to see her and not have her see herself no matter what you try to tell her.
        .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..Attracting Good People and Good Books =-.

    • You can train taking decisions, at least a little bit. Start with “easy” stuff, like when you go out for dinner. Make a deal with yourself to read the menu only once, decide what you will have and stick with it. Done.
      The more you practice that with daily things, the more you get into the routine of just taking the decision their and then.
      Have fun πŸ™‚
      .-= Renee´s last blog ..Definition Of Motivation =-.

  12. “The major weakness of all educational systems is that they neither teach nor encourage the habit of definite decision.”

    Totally agree. The education system is very good at grooming you for employment. However it’s not too good at teaching you how to be an employer. Or how to run with an idea. Even basic finance skills are overlooked. This leaves school leavers under prepared for life – and primed to be swindled and caught in the rat race cycle.

    David
    .-= David Moloney´s last blog ..What is a Brand Name? It’s Everything. =-.

    • I find it baffling to see so many people agreeing with the lack of education a school system provides as I thought it was just in North America but it seems worldwide. With the vast amount of great resources and people knowing that the change needs to be made it’s horrifying to see it so similar and not changing.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..Attracting Good People and Good Books =-.

  13. We are all constantly taking decisions throughout our day. Do I get up or stay in bed? Shower or not? Tea or Coffee? etc.
    For a lot of things we don’t take the decision anymore as this certain decision has already turned into a habit (“I always/never have coffee in the morning”) that we don’t question anymore.
    But for bigger things, when I have to take a conscious decision, very often I find that hard to do. Why? Depends. Sometimes because I don’t have the facts, sometimes because I don’t want to do it and haven’t found a good reason to explain my decision against it – so I just don’t decide it. Or at least don’t tell anyone my decision. Bad habit πŸ˜‰

    To train my decisiveness I have been told to start with smaller things and train my decision-making-speed. Like when I am at the restaurant.
    Instead of reading through the menu 5 times just read it once, give yourself a minute to think about it and – decide. And stick to it. The worst thing that can happen is that you might have the not-perfect meal, but you have done a big step towards taking decisions and seeing it through!
    .-= Renee´s last blog ..Motivational Music =-.

  14. This is a great post & quite relevant to me at the moment. The temp office job that I have had since November last year is coming to an end this Friday. My bestest friend thinks I should put in job applications for a safe office job – and I could do that but I am just not suited to be an office person for the rest of my life.

    I told her this afternoon that after reading Sean’s blog intensely for the last couple of weeks I must go after my true purpose of writing comedy – radio, tv, magazine, newspaper… maybe one day – movies. This is it basically – there is no turning back.

    I can’t keep living a dual life – it’s never going to work. And the universe is only going to telling me this – that’s a painful way to learn.

    None of it has been easy and I can’t let fear – or my friends fear of haiving a “secure income” running out at the end of the week.

    My plan has been written out. Did that as soon as I got home. Plan is called Witty Sam’s Mission Declaration. It’s not a long list – just making start to cover the basics. Don’t want too much on the plate that it overwhelms.

    Here it is guys. Then I have to go – gotta take action. Starting tomorrow will be getting it up on the net…
    1. Witty Sam blog – PAGE
    Outline what I want
    Write a blog – creative/witty angle
    Complete bio

    2.Squidoo Lens
    Witty Sam – comic writer extra-ordin-naire

    3.Youtube
    Interview myself

    4.Article
    Write articles (2 min) about my niche – selling myself with links back to my site

    5.Blogroll
    Connect with blogs in my niche & send them email. Blogroll exchanges.

    USE social network – twitter/facebook.

    Okay – there it is in black & white. Now, I will hold myself to it. In one week – this is hard to say – I will have a job writing comedy.
    .-= Samantha Banfield´s last blog ..Sean Rasmussen and his crazy talk! =-.

  15. As parents we rely too heavily on the education system to prepare our kids for the future. We as parents have an obligation to teach them the principles we feel would help them in the future too. Encouraging our kids from an early age to be more decisive and to instil self-confidence will no doubt prepare them where traditional schools fail.

    Colin
    .-= Colin Schedler´s last blog ..People Who Discourage Us =-.

    • My Niece was not happy with the School system so she home schooled her children till they moved to Townsville (her husband is in the army) when the children went to formal school they were 2 years ahead of the other children, they are still far ahead as Mum is still following her beliefs as to what they be learning

  16. Nancy Moyle says:

    Well SOME parents rely heavily on the education system, I homeschooled five of my children for seven years. Frankly I’m still trying to figure out whether that was or wasn’t the best for them. How’s that for being indecisive?

  17. Nancy Moyle says:

    Hey Samantha, I LOVE your plan particularly the idea of interviewing yourself on Youtube! Can’t wait to see it.

  18. Indeed indecision is a habit that begins in youth. I’ll sight my son -a second year high school student -as an example. He keeps on asking me what course he will take in college. He has a lot in mind but could not figure out which one to choose. I told him to go after his interest because I cannot decide for him even if I wanted to. Of course I want the best course for my son but, what he believes would make him happy, is what matters more to me.

  19. School’s push for higher education and yet give no actual direction or insight to what their students should do. I grew up with a very limited income, no financial support from my family and a dream. My dream was to become an author but in high school the only thing I was told was that I had to go to university.

    I started working and saved every last sent, emailed inquiries to my chosen universities and received welcome packages and questions as to what I would take. There lied the rub…. what do you take in university to teach you something you already know? I think if I did go teachers would continue criticizing my work and possibly have squashed the dream I had instead of fueling it.

    Now, with my first born in my life, I am struggling to discover the meaning of school and determining if homeschooling of my own teachings would benefit him more.
    .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..I Am Attracting You and Your Vote Via Law Of Attraction =-.

    • I believe that in most areas in Australia there is support if you want to home school your children, if you start early enough you can gather all the information and maybe even observe how other parents are coping to help you with a decision

  20. Nancy Moyle says:

    Hi Sarah,
    if you have the opportunity to homeschool from the start it is the way to go! Homeschooling is a fabulous way to discover your children’s strengths and build upon them. It’s a joy to really get to know your child. It’s an opportunity to pass on your own values rather than having your child pick up values that you don’t necessarily agree with.
    If you love your child (and what parent doesn’t) and you know how to set firm boundaries whilst developing creativity you can homeschool.

    • I completely agree as far as the education aspect goes but wonder how much he’ll be missing out on social wise. During my year off I’m trying my darnedest to set myself up to avoid going back to work or, at the very least, only going back part time but I’m going insane being home alone all day.

      Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love having the opportunity to be home with my baby and teach him everything possible it’s just that I miss the outside world. I miss adult conversations and topics that don’t involve my brutal delivery or the developments of my son. I loved talking about him but need a break once in a while, need to know what the world has happening. I fear that if I home school both my son and myself will go nuts! lol
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..I Am Attracting You and Your Vote Via Law Of Attraction =-.

  21. It is true. Definiteness of decision can take courage when we are struggling with our own ideas of what we can and cannot achieve. The detachment we need to overcome long-held beliefs can be quite deep inside us at times. We can do it, of course, and when we do we are the ones who are most surprised ! (atta girl, Sam! )
    .-= Jo Carey-Bradshaw´s last blog ..Empowering Mindset – Mindfulness =-.

  22. i agree with you Sarah you make a lot of sense in what you say. You go with what your heart wants to do.
    .-= Richard Colum´s last blog ..Tips for First Time Home Buyers =-.

  23. Jazz Salinger says:

    Hi Sean,

    Indecision is a killer. I think the challenge is to find something that is truly our passion. When I ask my friends what their passion is, they often don’t know what it is.

    How can we be successful if we don’t know what our passion is? If we don’t know what we truly love to do? It’s easy then for life to get in the way and we end up settling for less than what we truly love but maybe what we’re comfortable with.

    I really wish our educational system was set up to help identify each child’s natural talents and abilities and then the education would be designed according to the child’s strengths. Maybe, then there would be less indecision and less unhappiness.

  24. The education system has a lot to answer for. And it’s not only here in Australia. the problem is how regulators perceive how it should be. Maybe the individual schools should take a stand and make their own decisions.

    I love your plan Sam. Looks great. I would love to see you put up a fan page. Maybe when you get through with the rest of it
    .-= Gee´s last blog ..Why You Should Just Ignore Fad Diets (Part 2) =-.

    • In Canada, too. They are teaching such lessons that are forgotten so quickly when there’s so much that could last a lifetime. I remember anticipating learning so much every Science class and the experiments were useless while science can be such a powerful topic. Read The Intention Experiment and that was filled with science I would have loved to learn about.

      Mind you, everyone is different so appreciate different aspects of each subject but there’s so much to learn and so little taught in school.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..I Am Attracting You and Your Vote Via Law Of Attraction =-.

  25. Quoting Sean :- Too often indecision is a well-learned and firmly imbedded habit that needs a firm hand to break it.

    The indecision of youth is very true. Ask any teacher either at school or as a private student such as those I’ve tried hard to teach to play the piano. Most of them decide to have lessons because their parents want them to and the poor teacher ends up going grey or tearing out their hair out, because the student has determined that learning piano is for sissies /weakies / wimps etc. and any decision about practising is to be indecisive, and procrastinated about. [ not my best English !! ]
    Result – abandoned lessons.

    Make a decision and do the task with energy and passion.
    ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE
    .-= Harry Lynn´s last blog ..How Proud Can One Be ? =-.

    • I believe parents should encourage their kids to participate in some activities but the child should have a voice as well. The child who decides before having a piano lesson that playing piano is not his/ her thing doesn’t have the knowledge to make a proper decision. I’m all about having my son experience a lot of things so that he can make a proper decision of what to continue doing when he has the knowledge to decide.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..Attracting Good People and Good Books =-.

    • I agree with Sarah, kids need to have a say in that. Because if they just go there because the parents want them to they have taken a decision. Against the classes. So they won’t practice because that is what they have decided.

      A better approach would be to let the kids have a trial, see how they like it and have them decide after lets they the first 3 lessons if they want to continue or not. This way they can take an informed decision, don’t have to do it if they are not convinced (for whatever reason) but don’t decide on hearsay.
      .-= Renee´s last blog ..Lose Weight Fast Diets =-.

      • My inlaws paid for curling lessons for my nephew during a March break camp, a week long. He loved it and still does it. The trouble I have with it is that he loved martial arts, guitar, swimming, etc and would have stuck with each if his parents let him. At this point it’s hard to say if he’s loving curling because his parents are letting him continue with it or because he simply loves it more than everything else.

        A former teacher of mine explained how she dealt with religion for her children. Each week she’d have one child pick the church they would like to attend, went as a family and discussed the church with everyone there. After going to all of the churches the kids then decided which one they would prefer. That way, you’re not forcing a decision on your child and you’re letting them make an informed one.
        .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..Attracting Good People and Good Books =-.

  26. Three thoughts come to mind; “he who hesitates is lost” and “better to regret something you did than something you didn’t do” and the third one I can’t remember but take my word for it , it was profound! lol (is it o.k to laugh at my own joke, I can’t decide)
    .-= Terry Tiessen´s last blog ..Ad Unit Magic =-.

    • I believe you can laugh at your own joke, laughter is so very important and almost – almost – always the best decision you can make.

      I agree with the two thoughts listed both from my own experience and those of others. I’m working on no longer hesitating and it seems to add almost an hour to my day so far.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..Attracting Good People and Good Books =-.

  27. The worst combination is when you have a couple where one is indecisive and the other that is not – I am lucky in this department but my friend has so much trouble. “What do you want to do this weekend” … “I dunno”
    .-= Lisa´s last blog ..Baby Sign for Puppy – A Dad’s Story =-.

    • That’s my husband and me. I’ve been learning, since reading Sean’s blogs, that it just wastes time. I’ve been practicing making the decision and find it hilarious when my husband goes a different way entirely. I just go with the flow but end the constant bickering as a result of no one deciding on anything.
      .-= Sarah Butland´s last blog ..You Are the Reason I Know It Will Happen =-.

  28. Hi Sean,
    I used to be undecided but now I’m not so sure. Lol (Did you say it was o.k to laugh at ones own jokes?)

    I heard a wise man once say that no decision is a wrong decision. He explained that this is because the decision was made on the amount of knowledge you had at the time. If you acquire more knowledge and decide to change the decision then that’s o.k. It’s better than not making a decision at all.

    We can all make mistakes and as long as we learn from them and don’t make the same one again, then that’s o.k also. Most important thing is not to keep doing the same thing and expect a different result…….we probably all know what this type of behaviour is a sign of.

    Very interesting article, Thank-you!
    .-= Jill Brown´s last blog ..Common Law Marriage – What is Common Law Marriage? =-.

    • Hi Jill,

      You make an excellent point. It’s kind of freeing to think that there is actually no wrong decision. We can make the best possible decision based on the information we have at the time.

      It doesn’t matter if it’s the wrong one as we’re free to make a new decision anytime we want to. There is value in every experience and you’re right; as long as we learn something from our mistakes; we’ll be okay.
      .-= Jazz Salinger´s last blog ..Finding Your Passion =-.

  29. Hi Sean

    I always wanted to go to art school, that is all I wanted to do. I did extremely well in year 12 and in those days, parents had to support you through University and they said no.

    I finally went 16 years later in very difficult circumstances. I did it and I spent 7 years studying art and loved every minute of it. I had definiteness of decision, I never let my dream go.

    Now I have another dream, and I know how to have definiteness of decision, and I am going for it. When I am definite, there are no grey or blurry edges. Totally focused is all I have to be. All it is, is a decision to take action.

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